Wednesday, May 21, 2008


It was Senator Anne Cools that spoke to our team in Ottawa and said the moment you question authority, the moment you challenge the status quo or separate yourself from the pack, a target is placed on your back! Just know that if what you stand for does not jive with the majority of opinion, you are seen as a threat. Thankfully there have been those who stepped up and the truth has been revealed. Take for example:

Aristotle who boldly proclaimed the truth that the earth was the center of the universe and this view was held from the mid 300s AD until 1530 AD. Bloodletting was considered a standard remedy for certain health conditions including fevers, inflammation and believe it or not, hemorrhaging. It did finally get nixed, but it held even as late as 1923 as being recommended by Sir William Osler. Then there is evolution which is taught as truth in schools. It is still a theory and many lies have been exposed here and continue to be exposed by Creation Research Institute -

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“What is truth?” asked Pontius Pilate of Jesus in John 18:38 and maybe you are wondering too! There are so many ‘versions of the truth’ out there even among believers so how can we know for sure.

Well, we start by first asking what is the aim of truth and what is the end result of that search.

Psalm 86:11 Teach me Your way, O Lord; I will walk in Your Truth.

Jesus Himself takes truth very seriously as He prayed, “Sanctify them in the truth; Your word is truth.” To sanctify means change and it is God’s transforming process in the life of every child of God. The words ‘in the truth’ is the fuel and power for change. This morning we are going to look at what it means to build our families on truth. In order for our families to walk in truth, it requires diligence, correction and relationship. Dial in and get focused as we get ready to go head first in to bootcamp for truth!

We have focused on a family that can pass the tests of life, we have talked about children who rise up and call their parents blessed. A lot of people spend time and energy in building families but if the foundation is wrong then it will only be a matter of time until a storm unravels everything you have your hard work into.

Matthew 7:24 refers to the story of a wise man who built his house on the rock in comparison to the foolish man who built on the sand. The word ‘rock’ here means ‘truth’. Jesus proclaims v25-27

There are two kinds of families…maybe it seems oversimplified but it is not. A family either builds on rock solid truth or you pick the option for sand – lies, neglect, apathy – they all fall in the category of sand. Now sand castles are pretty impressive and they can free up time for a lot of other pursuits that seem more personally gratifying. Building your family on the sand is fast and easy and looks good if we are going for appearances sake.

Unfortunately building your home on truth requires intentionality and focus. It often doesn’t come naturally…it takes spiritual inertia to overcome the human lethargy of the soul. It takes time to drill deep and build carefully. Quite honesty building your home on truth may seem not worth the effort…that is until the storm hits.

So this story in Matthew tells us of two families who built on very different foundations but encountered the very same experiences. You name the storms that hit a family…what are they?

  • Tragic loss of a family member
  • Sudden financial reversal
  • Rebellion of a son or daughter

Don’t miss this….there are two very different outcomes. The house built on sand has a great fall and complete and total devastation. The house built on the rock stood strong.

I have heard about and witnessed the total collapse of family units in every church that I have been in. I have also watched families in all the same churches be dealt the most difficult hand and not only survive but thrive so what gives, what makes the difference? They both attended the same church, listened to the same message, brought their children to church faithfully…

Building Your Family on Truth requires:

  1. Diligence

Remind them of these things, and solemnly charge them in the presence of God not to wrangle about words, which is useless and leads to the ruin of the hearers.

Be diligent to present yourself approved to God as a workman who does not need to be ashamed, accurately handling the word of truth. 2 Timothy 2:14,15 NASB

Diligence is absolutely necessary to keep you focused. It is a driven determination to see this life, this home, this family all the way through.

· Avoid the foolish issues

Don’t wrangle about words –wrangle could easily be translated ‘a war of words’ This encompasses all the nonsense arguments that we have that really are unnecessary. This kind of quarreling usually comes with an edge of sarcasm and a tone that undervalues. Unfortunately it is many nonsensical issues that are tearing homes apart. The enemy likes to get our focus off the most important life changing conversations and get wrapped up in the trivial….Paul is saying that kind of convo is USELESS…get that .

We only get so many words in our families and the older are children get, the fewer our words become….It may sound like this, “Clean up your room,” “why haven’t you taken the garbage out?” “How many cookies have you had already?” “Get to bed already” We need to speak into their lives so much more? They need to have words that are going to have an impact. If we are too exhausting fighting the smaller issues, we are going to miss those big teachable moments.

If we keep up the nagging about all the unimportant stuff, it will lead to ruin especially with the absence of meaningful convos, it will be to their ruin and our's.

Swallow your pride and change now, tell your children, your wife…whoever and tell them you are sorry and admit that you have been pressing them about the insignificant stuff. It takes humility.

· Prioritize the word of Truth

A family that certainly does this is the Lazarski's and once again that was brought home by Jordan's video message to Luke and Rebekah at their wedding. It was chalk full of Scripture to challenge them!

To accurately handle the Word of Truth means to cut it straight. You say how do I cut it straight?

For example when you son or daughter wants to date a non- Christian, you take them to 2 Corinthians 6:14…take a stand.

When they want to go to a party where you know there will be alcohol present…

Do not be deceived: "Bad company corrupts good morals."

)Become sober-minded as you ought, and stop sinning; for some have no knowledge of God I speak this to your shame 1 Corinthians 15:32-34

When they want to watch an inappropriate movie, take a stand, make the call, protect their thought life.

Philippians 4:8 Whatever is pure, whatever is lovely…dwell on these things.

You tell me, hey man, my marriage is not working out like I thought it would. I’m not sure I’m going to make it…now after I pray with you, I’m going to cut it straight…

Matthew 19:6 What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.

You tell me it has been a hard time of year, I don’t think I can give to the church, to the relief effort in Myanmar….

Matthew 6:33 Seek FIRST the kingdom of God

They don’t want to do homework

So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.

1 Corinthians 10:31

They feel useless, they are being bullied.

this is what the LORD Almighty says: —for whoever touches you touches the apple of his eye Zechariah 2:8

There are some families known on my street as ‘party central’ where the drinking goes into the wee hours of the morning…

People on my street know that my home is kid central… how about prayer central…

What is your home known for???

Building Your Family on Truth requires

2. Correction

the Lord's bond-servant must not be quarrelsome, but be kind to all, able to teach, patient when wronged,

with gentleness correcting those who are in opposition, if perhaps God may grant them repentance leading to the knowledge of the truth, 2 Timothy 2:24,25 NASB

Know this right now that when you decide that your home will be built on the truth who ultimately is Jesus, you will encounter opposition.

There are different kinds of opposition

· Misunderstandings – You may be accused of being too harsh or going off the deep end with the whole Bible thing and your character may be attacked

· Tiredness – sometimes we can become so tired with children especially when they are younger and just ‘let things slide’ like reading with them, praying with them, correcting bad behaviour –do what is right and follow up. I can’t tell you how frustrating it is to hear parents threaten to discipline their children and not follow through. Take for example this one...’we will never come back here again!' they say in a middle of a restaurant.... really?? You are never going to this fast food restaurant with them again… hallelujah...but seriously follow through and make the punishment fit the crime. When you say, 'Next time you do this, I will take that away – take it away then…be ready to correct and follow through on your discipline so make it make sense.

· Emotional distance – as they get older, this can rip you apart, but don’t back down, don’t compromise and draw the line…if they really love God, they will thank you someday.

When you give in and leak in compromise, it will soon become a flood. Stand your ground and stand together…back each other up as husband and wife.

Building Your Family on Truth requires

3. Relationship

You, however, continue in the things you have learned and become convinced of, knowing from whom you have learned them,

15and that from childhood you have known the sacred writings which are able to give you the wisdom that leads to salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus.

All Scripture is inspired by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, for training in righteousness;

so that the man of God may be adequate, equipped for every good work.

2Timothy 3:14-17

He doesn’t say knowing what you have learned…He states – knowing from whom you have learned them…

There it is. The foundation is secure because there is an example to follow. There is someone who just doesn’t breath hot air – they are actually living out what they are challenging you to go for as well.

The other thing to notice here is that he tells him, ‘you have learned these things from childhood.

2 Timothy 1:5 gives us a window into Timothy’s childhood. Timothy’s father was Greek and apparently did not worship the God of Israel. Acts 16:1,3 Tim had a faithful mother and grandmother, Lois, who poured into his life.

Your children will learn about God in Adventureland but it is not their job to teach the Word of God to your kids…It is ultimately the responsibility of the parents… Deuteronomy 6:1-9

Truth must be taught in the context of relationship. Look for the opportunities….

I had one of those teachable moments not too long ago as 'Too late to apologize’ came on the radio on the drive to school with my kids and had a great conversation about forgiveness.

We need to have a relationship with the author and designer of families.

John 5:39 It is not just about head knowledge of the Scriptures.

It all comes back to knowing Jesus because He is the way, the TRUTH, the life. John 14:6

He embodies truth, He is the one who reveals truth in His very words through His Holy Spirit.

You are a king, then!" said Pilate. Jesus answered, "You are right in saying I am a king. In fact, for this reason I was born, and for this I came into the world, to testify to the truth. Everyone on the side of truth listens to me." John 18:37

He came for the truth to be revealed about Himself, He is God Incarnate, the Son of God, the very one who lives in us and we in Him!

Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free." John 8:32

His truth sets us free from the lies of the enemy who wants to keep you stuck, keep you listening to his lies, keep you in bondage to fear and sin.

So we come back to the passage that we began with.

The elder,
To the chosen lady and her children, whom I love in the truth—and not I only, but also all who know the truth - 2because of the truth, which lives in us and will be with us forever:

3Grace, mercy and peace from God the Father and from Jesus Christ, the Father's Son, will be with us in truth and love.

4It has given me great joy to find some of your children walking in the truth, just as the Father commanded us.

2 John 1-4

So, love the Truth, embrace the Truth and walk in the Truth. The Truth, Jesus is light, He is the one who through the Holy Spirit will enable us to keep walking in the truth, staying on course. Allow Him to keep speaking in to your life and breathe life into your family.

2Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well. 3It gave me great joy to have some brothers come and tell about your faithfulness to the truth and how you continue to walk in the truth. 4I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth.

3 John

The Takeaway

A family that builds on the truth will prevail because its foundation rests secured.

Building Strong Families

1. Take time to not just pray with your kids but read a portion of God’s Word to them and read it with GUSTO!! Get into character.

2. Take advantage of family devotionals – a link is there off of our website. Commit some regular days during the week to sit down together and share after supper.

3. Choose some family values that you will post on your fridge together and springboard this exercise after a family meal as you find them in the Word of God.

4. Have a contest with them to learn the books of the Bible

5. Take time to memorize a verse together as a family for each week. Psalm 127 or Ephesians 6 are great places to begin.

If you are not the fondest of reading, you can now get audio versions of the Bible to listen to on your mp3 player

This blog's outline with thanks to James MacDonald

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